This isn't a typical sappy Valentine post

be your own valentine

This isn't sappy even though I do say the word love ;)

I want you to focus your love on you starting this week because, after all, Valentine is spelled with an I ;) 

Massages, manicures, and facials are great and all (and I have fabulous local recommendations) but when I talk about love I’m talking about what’s going on under the surface. The real shit. 

How you’re showing up for yourself is either adding to your genuine happiness and daily ease or keeping you a bit stressed, making you feel like you need to ‘cope’, or encouraging you to keep avoiding the difficult stuff. 

Real love for yourself shines from the inside out.

Take the top three regrets of the dying for example:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

I used to live with all three of these regrets except at the time I didn't see them as regrets or even that they were wrong. I was simply playing into Society’s ‘shoulds’ and wasn't even tuned in to how living this way was negatively impacting my life and health. 

Society says we need to work hard and that we need to squash our voices and passions because fitting in, pleasing others, and living status quo trumps everything.

If these dying people would have been given a second shot at loving themselves from the inside out they would have:

Let go of limited and negative beliefs and built confidence and self-worth so that society’s ‘opinion’ no longer mattered.

Left dead-end careers and relationships and felt true lightness and freedom for living their passions with the right people. 

Stopped associating worth by their possessions, how many hours they worked, their title, or how closely they could ‘fit in’ to society norms. 

Valentine, how do you want to really live the rest of this day? The rest of your life?

Speak up for yourself? Say no? Stop giving a shit about society rules and people pleasing? Be authentically you and take powerful action steps on your dream? Let something or someone go? 

Do it. Live it. NOW. 

Play this life like you mean it and keep the I in Valentine by living full-on while you’re alive! 


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My Daughter's Mental And Physical Adventure. Relate?

Taos ski valley

We went to visit my daughter, Kennedy, this past weekend out in Taos Ski Valley, NM. She’s a ski instructor for kids there and loves it!

Rewind back a few months.

Kennedy was filled with angst about making the decision to go. Should she stay here with her friends and family or forge out on her own into uncharted territory to honor her adventurous spirit. 

When we’d ask her back then what she was going to decide she would never know. She’d justify all the reasons it would make sense to stay here and then in the next breath be super excited and animated when she talked about going out west. 

You can tell A LOT about someone by their body language and energy and we made sure we pointed that out to her. 

When she talked about staying, her demeanor was measured and flat and her mind was in full-blown ‘logic’ mode. 

When she talked about going, her energy surged, her face lit up, she talked faster and with more animation, and her body loosened up. It was her intuition not her ‘logical’ mind speaking through her.

Your body never lies and your intuition talks through your body. Cool, huh!?

Your intuitive self doesn’t use mind ‘logic’ and in fact only roughly 5% of what you do every day is based on logic. 

Your intuitive self, the 95% that isn’t logical, doesn’t use words to communicate. It uses your body, behaviors and emotions. If you ever listen to our podcast, It's a Brain Changer, Darlene and I always refer to this non-logical part as 'donkey mind' because it literally functions on the level of a donkey. 

I’m so glad Kennedy listened to her intuitive self/donkey mind because it was screaming at her to go! She absolutely loves it out there, has met great friends, and is shredding that mountain!  

Do you ever find yourself going back and forth when you’re trying to make a decision? Ever stall out and avoid making the decision all together because it’s a hassle and staying where you are (comfortable) feels easier? 

Darlene Mew and I (It’s a Brain Changer) created a very useful (and free)Under-Thinking Course that helps you make all kinds of decisions (big and small) quickly and intuitively by ‘listening’ to your body/donkey mind/intuitive self.

This free download includes four short instructional videos and three valuable worksheets that help you practice ‘checking in’ with your body and give you the right logical questions to ask (yes, it's important to usesome logic, just not all logic :))

We’d love for you to download it. 

We’re also finishing up a free guide that teaches you about the three vital signals your donkey mind uses to get your attention. These are important to know because they save you from stress, getting sick, being unproductive, and so much more. When you download the free Under-Thinking Course you’ll get this guide automatically as soon as it’s complete. 


Are you part of my Motivation Monday Tribe?
Hardcore motivation, on the day you need it most? Drop your name and email here if not and let’s start rocking Mondays together!

Bonus!
Get the tool I use every time my current situation feels heavy, stressful, or icky. It works like a champ to quickly turn it around and I am confident it will do that for you too. Get it here.

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