Jaded? I didn’t find my soul mate until I did this. You in?
I'm in reflection mode and thinking about my relationship and how I absolutely love it. It’s easy, loving, passionate, rewarding, and a lot of fun and it’s been this way since we met over seven years ago.
Prior to that? My relationships were hard, unfulfilling, and draining.
What changed? I changed. After I got my divorce I knew the imperative next step was to work on me. I realized that I was the common denominator in all of my unfulfilling relationships and if I ever wanted to find the love of my life it needed to start with me loving me.
An eye-opening quote I remember reading:
What appears to be coming at you may be coming from you.
Damn! That’s harsh, especially when you want to believe it’s the other person.
I had to shine the light on my stuck patterns so that I could get unstuck and learn to shine.
Since my relationships typically lacked trust and respect I realized that I needed to work on those within me if I ever wanted to attract them in another person.
And when I did — bam! She literally showed up — at Allen Golds no less! This seedy dance club may very well be the most unlikely place to ever meet your soul mate!
I found her because I was finally completely open to finding her. I had worked past my blocks and was ready for a healthy relationship because I finally had a healthy one with me.
When I did my self-work I also learned how to..
speak up for myself without apologizing or fearing that I may say something wrong
be self-compassionate and stop beating myself up for every little thing
uncover my purpose and passions so that dimming my light became a thing of the past
exude inner-confidence and stopped comparing myself
love full-on and express myself without tabling my enthusiasm or feeling that I couldn’t be ‘all in’ with someone
deeply trust myself and my ability to be in a healthy relationship
stop self-sabotaging my goals and the better habits I wanted for myself
respect myself by learning about and honoring my boundaries and values
Are you single and ready to do your own self-work so you find your soul mate?
Start here:
1. What is one relationship pattern you notice that you’re sick and tired of?
2. Where does your mind go when this pattern happens?
3. * Get curious — How may you be contributing to this pattern?
4. What is one small thing you start doing to shift this pattern in you?
Example:
1. I attract guys who are emotionally unavailable.
2. This makes me doubt myself and I think there’s something I need to do different (better, more of…) to make me more attractive to him.
3. * I’m not sure how I’m contributing to this pattern. I feel like I bend over backwards to make sure our time together is great. Maybe I am giving too much of myself away? Are there ever times that I’m not emotionally available because I don’t want to get burned?
4. I’m going to start paying more attention to my emotional needs because I don’t think I’ve ever done that before.
* This step can be tricky because we’ve typically been too close to the situation for too long to see it with much objectivity.
Your mind developed stuck patterns long ago and they generally feel real, unchangeable, and ‘just who I am.’ This is why it’s common to get jaded, stalled-out, or feel like you have to settle.
The good news? It doesn't take as long to unstuck yourself from these patterns as you may think! That is, if you're open to learning and growing.
I am developing a master course for single women who are ready to get to the bottom of their stuck patterns so they change their love-life stories once and for all. And I am beyond excited about it!
As I’m developing the modules I’d love to get your occasional input to ensure I capture your biggest frustrations and hear what I would need to bring to the table to make sure this course delivered the kick-ass results you need.
If you think being part of my class development tribe would be fun and you’d like to share your opinions please simply click here to reply and I’ll add you.
I’ll also start up a private Face Book group since it's a great way for you to give me input and also an easy way for me to offer you tools and useful insight as a thank you ;)
Recap: This course will be for single women who are tired of not finding the right relationship and see that doing their own self-work is the catalyst to change it all.
Important: Being part of the development team doesn't obligate or guilt you in any way to sign up once the class is complete. I ain't that kinda girl :) But it may get you a discount if you were interested ;)
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