Kelly Summersett: Life Coach for Professional Women

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18 dirty words that suck the life out of you (you using any?)


Take a look at this list of dirty words!

Fed up

Sick and tired

Stuck 

Depleted

Unhappy

Unfulfilled

Unmotivated

Stagnant 

Tired

Panicked

Depressed

Angry

Hopeless

Resentful

Drained

Settling

Anxious

Ho-hum

I am in the middle of an assignment for a course I’m taking and these are the words the women I’m interviewing use to describe how they feel (or for some, how they felt before we worked together.)

I relate to these dirty words well. They’re the ones I used years ago before the shit hit the fan, I crashed, and then climbed my way out of hell into the energizing, beautiful light. 

Feeling stuck (or insert your own dirty word) is a by-product of giving a lot of time and attention to your B.S. Inner Critic.

Your Inner Critic…

Tells you to play it safe

Tells you not to try because what if you fail? Or succeed? 

Tells you to question your abilities and worth

Erodes your confidence in both directions (you’re doing too good and who do you think you are…or you’re not good enough)

Says that being perfect and in control are the only ways to success and then uses them to negatively motivate you

Tells you your successes and milestones are never enough

Compares you to other women

Equates your worth to how well you please and meet others’ needs (of course before meeting your own)

Makes excuses and justifications for why you’re where you’re at

Says that you should be further along or know how to do it already, just like everyone else

“What-ifs”, “shoulds”, and “worries” you to death 

Always make you feel like shit, decreases your energy, and keeps you feeling stuck

Your Inner Critic’s job is to keep you safe but her demented spin actually keeps you from your dreams, living bigger and bolder, speaking up for yourself without guilt or shame, from being confident in your skin, and from your mind-blowing career or relationship.

The very first step you must take to quiet your Inner Critic? Be aware! You can’t course correct until you recognize her destructive pattern.


Quieting your Inner Critic helps you gain back your life! 


Hey! Are you local to Chattanooga? How would you like to dive deeper into topics like this so you learn how to be your happiest and best self without the Inner Critic B.S.?

I am bringing back The Power of Happy that I lead two years ago in conjunction with CWLI and I’d love for you to join in!

These free monthly interactive sessions are an opportunity for us kick-ass women to get together in a growth-oriented, supportive and non-judging environment to talk about real life stuff and more importantly, learn how to move through all of our real life stuff easier!

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