After years of coaching women I’ve learned that our personal stories are always vastly different.
Yet the underlying themes are always the same.
You just don’t feel that successful especially when you compare yourself to others or where you think you should be at this stage of your life.
Of pleasing everyone, controlling everything and measuring up to everyone’s standards and expectations, including the unrealistic ones you set for yourself. Oh, and you’re tired of being your own worst enemy.
You’re so damn nice, kind and helpful and make sure everyone’s needs are met before your own and that’s draining the life and happiness right out of you.
You’re not in love with your body.
Maybe you have weight to lose or perhaps you look great to everyone else but all you see are your flaws. You’re ready to find the real and lasting positive solution because what you've been doing hasn't worked and you’re geared up to change that for good.
You’re ready for more.
"How the hell did I get here?" Maybe you’ve let yourself go or you’re in a stagnant career, relationship, or both, and you’re not sure what to do about it but you're ready to figure it out because living this stressful default life isn't adding to your happiness.
I GET YOU.
I get you because I was you for decades of my life.
I never felt good enough or that I was accomplishing enough and that lead to years of stress, lack of sleep, disordered eating, anxiety, bitterness, workout addiction, overwhelm, and an overall manic life that revolved around everyone but me.
I would over-function and think I had to hold everything and everyone together and definitely never show any weakness because I was strong damn it!
I would set unrealistic goals for myself and then use a ton of negative motivation to ‘succeed.’ I held on tight to control and rarely gave myself permission to celebrate my achievements because there was always a next level waiting.
Because I was always stressed (who wouldn’t be!) I turned to food for solace. And because I always wanted to be seen as super fit and healthy I would workout for hours each week so I wouldn’t gain weight. Even though everyone told me I looked great I never believed them.
It was an absolute bullshit way to live and here’s the crazy ironic part: I truly thought I was happy. I honestly thought that was how life was supposed to go (I was literally the mom in the movie Bad Moms––read my blog post.)
Oh, hell no!
After I crashed from self-induced stress and overwhelm I figured out how to take my power back and do life on my terms.
I learned to really love myself and when I did that everything fell into place. I stopped listening to the critical voice in my head telling me that I wasn’t enough and started living for me!
I let go of control, slowed down, and learned to go with the flow which ironically made me more productive, creative, successful and happy.
I figured out my values and boundaries and learned to use my voice to speak up for them without all of the self imposed guilt and worry over what people thought.
I put myself on my VIP list and started taking care of my needs first and witnessed my relationships thrive.
I found my soul mate, got the guts to turn my life and health coaching passions into a successful career, and started defining happiness according to my truths and values. (Important Value: Fun. Fun = Dancing. Yeah!)
I got off the crazy train of emotional eating and workout mania because I learned how to fill up from life which meant I no longer needed to use excessive food or exercise as a way to ‘cope’ and handle it all. My weight leveled off naturally and the mirror and I became friends.
You want to know the top two game changers?
#1. Self love is where it’s at
You will never hate yourself happy, berate your body thin, compare yourself to feel worthy, put yourself last to decrease stress, or beat yourself up to success. It simply doesn’t work that way.
#2. Firing your Inner Critic is key to having #1
For real. You simply can’t listen to her negative badgering B.S. and expect to have any real happiness or a fulfilling life.
Ladies, this is the most powerful one-two combo around and it works.
It’s what I’ve learned to do and what I help my clients get really great at.
My clients learn to be comfortable living bigger, bolder, and more courageous!
They figure out their boundaries and speak up for their values and truths without guilt and self-imposed pressures.
They learn to say hell no (or hell yes!) with conviction.
And they learn that self-love has so many positive side effects:
- Strong and healthy relationships
- Rewarding and passion-filled careers
- Natural and sustained weight loss without diets, fads, or pills
- Return to thriving and vibrant health
- Sound sleep
- Genuine joy and happiness as the rule instead of the exception
If you think it’s time to start taking your power back and owning your one and only precious life – let’s talk.