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3 Ways 95% Of Us Screw Up Bathing Suit Season

Kelly Summersett

It’s almost spring. Thinking about bathing suits yet? Ready for your private ‘see how my shorts fit’ fashion show in front of your mirror (complete with contorted faces)? 

Do you start out strong about now with a lot of fire to get to the gym after some well-deserved wintertime hibernation?  

I know the pattern all too well and maybe you can relate to what comes next — the comparison and perfection game, never feeling ‘enough’, using negative motivation and a lot of willpower to get to the gym, and ‘trying hard’ to eat right. 

Oh, and let’s not forget control. Oh yeah. That cute little self-imposed mind game enforcing strict parameters on food, play, exercise, relationships…everything!

Yeah that was me. Lots of control, trying to be ‘perfect’, negative motivation and willpower. 

Did I look good? Yes. Did I think I looked good? Hell no. I could only see my flaws and everything I didn’t yet have. 

Listening to that critical and negative voice never worked….let me rephrase, it worked but not well and not for long. It’s like seeing what you want for yourself but continuing to play out the absolute wrong way to get it. And that is ex-haust-ing. 

And since I’m divulging, here’s more — I never felt like I could share this internal mind f*%$ with anyone for three reasons:

#1) I always thought everyone had it more together (and looked better) than me and they’d judge me.

#2) I never wanted to show vulnerabilities or weakness and only wanted people to see that I had it all together.

#3) I didn’t understand or realize I wasn’t doing it right (weird, right?) I thought fitness and having a good body was just a struggle for me and the way I was dealing with it (control, perfecting, ‘trying hard’, negative motivation, etc) was the right way.

 Turns out? 95-99% of all women feel like this! It messes with your head and every single bathing suit season.


It is my mission for you to do it different. Better. Easier. To have support and be able to relax and know you’re absolutely not alone. 

 My Springtime Fitness Gift to You.

Join me for free for the next two weeks in my private Facebook Group. 

I created it for you and everyone like you who wants to do their health, fitness, and life bigger and bolder this year. To stop doing what has never really worked and learn the game-changing tools that up-level how you look at your body, workouts, and health from this point forward. 

Here’s the scoop in full transparency:

If you’re tired of replaying worn-out patterns and want better tools, join this group.

You’ll get a new way to look at things, support, and the best part? A community of other women who are in the same place as you and are committed to doing their health and fitness better this year too. 

I’m running this group today through Saturday, March 16th. 

After the two weeks are up? If you want to continue your journey you’ll have the opportunity to dive into a longer and more robust program (both in person and remote) that takes you to the next level of OWNING IT! with your fitness and in your life.

This group is a free two-week gift from me. No further strings or no pressure to do anything beyond that unless you choose to.

And that, my loves, is the scoop in full transparency. 

If you want to join in (even if you just want to observe) click this OWN IT! link and I’ll add you. Have friends who might be interested? Please, by all means, share this post with them or send them direct to the Facebook group link. 

Learning with friends is the best way to stay accountable. 

Local to Chattanooga? Check-out the two free ‘try me out’ workouts I have scheduled for these next two Saturdays.

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How to find the right Life Coach

Kelly Summersett life coach

This is one of my favorite quotes because it sums up so perfectly what happens when we are open to opportunities without even knowing in advance what kinds of beautiful growth will happen as a result.

It reminds me of the time I hired my first life coach about a decade ago.

What a self-imposed mind game that was. It took me two years (and a lot of wasted time and energy) to decide! Gees. I kept justifying that I couldn’t afford it and was I really that bad off? I would rationalize that I was a smart woman and could figure it out on my own by applying what I read in books.

And there was the fact that I simply couldn’t visualize what they would help me with. Would I really be that different after coaching? And how?  It was such an unknown and I was very skeptical.

And last, another big stall-out was how overwhelming I made the process of finding the right coach. Talk about freezing me into inaction! How do I choose the right coach? Where do I find them? Is phone coaching effective? Do I need a business or a life coach? What if I pick business and I really needed life? Ahhhhh! It literally made me crazy so then I would revert back to the ‘I can do this myself with books because I’m smart’ justification.

{Pausing the story! Two years of vacillating over this added up to me not growing my business, not having clarity, and definitely not making much money. So hahahaha, the joke was on me. I didn’t want to afford coaching yet I see now that it would have been the wisest investment ever. Live and learn. Now, I don’t hesitate –– when I’m stuck and need a coach I pick up that phone.}

So, I ran into a friend who told me about a Life Coach they knew locally and I decided to take that as the Universe nudging me forward so we met for a consultation.  I hired him immediately for six months.

What a serious relief that was! I no longer had to continue spinning my wheels mulling it over and that freed up so much energy to start moving forward. It felt really good to turn my life over to him and allow him to guide me because back then I had a real problem with allowing anyone to help (you know…letting go of control!)

I specifically wanted him to help me gain clarity with my business and as good coaches go, he really didn’t help me much with that. Are you thinking that I’m crazy right now? How could I consider him a great coach when he didn’t directly help me with what I hired him for?

Yes, it does appear crazy until I tell the rest of the story…

A good coach listens under the surface and because they’re an impartial 3rd party they truly ‘see’ what’s going on and what we need with a hell of a lot more clarity than we do.

He saw that I wasn’t ready to grow my business because I needed to grow me first. I had many mindset blocks and head games going on that were keeping me from moving forward and he knew those needed to be addressed first.

Well, he was right. I came out of that relationship with so much more clarity and focus about me which in turn got me unstuck and allowed me to grow my business much more effectively and quickly.

I didn’t know what was missing until I found it. I love the beauty of that.

What growth opportunities are waiting for you that will up-level your life that you may not even be aware that you need? Something to ponder :) 

How to find the right life coach

Choosing a life coach to support, mentor, and guide you is an important investment and here are some questions to consider as you evaluate your options:

  •  Is this person truly already living the life I aspire for myself?

  •  Did they get to this life by actually living? (with all the messiness and growth that goes along with it)

  • What are their beliefs and philosophies? Is there an opportunity to uncover a new way of being that I may have never considered?

  • Do I like their energy, who they are, and their values?

  • What do former clients have to say about their experience?

  • Do I get a good feeling about this coach? Do they care about me and my unique needs?

Are you part of my Motivation Monday Tribe?

Hardcore motivation, on the day you need it most? Drop your name and email here if not and let’s start rocking Mondays together!

Get the tool I use every time my current situation feels heavy, stressful, or icky. It works like a champ to quickly turn it around and I am confident it will do that for you too. Get it here.