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Getting vulnerable about my wrinkles

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We live in a society with a ton of ‘norms.’

Get married by a certain age

Buy a house because you should

Smile even when you’re sad

Be thin at all costs

Make a lot of money in a job you hate

Look young no matter your age

“Society” is a buzz kill, a pain in the ass, and a big bully that wants everyone to fit inside a mold of sameness. 

I’m 51 1/2 years old and I’m self-conscious about my wrinkles and very aware of other people’s faces/bodies. I do the comparison game a lot.

So many people I meet these days regardless if they’re 35 or 65 don’t seem to have wrinkles anymore! What’s in the water!? 

Maybe they were born with it, maybe it’s Maybelline, or maybe it’s fillers, filters, or facelifts. I don’t care what it is and it’s not for me to judge anyone.

It’s me that needs to be OK with me no matter what ‘society’ says I should value.  

I need to be OK to know that I’m 51 1/2 — I’m aging! I’m not supposed to look 21. It’s OK to age! 

Even though I fall into the comparison trap I quickly climb out and remind myself of these facts because that’s the healthy thing to do. That what makes me walk confidently into a room. And that’s what makes me get back to feeling comfortable in my skin.'

And besides — how do I feel on the inside? About 30 :) 

Fear of aging ages me

Masking my wrinkles isn’t being transparent

Worrying about my looks robs me of living full-on today

I’m curious — what’s your stance on society and aging? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please comment below.

Did this post resonate? We cover this topic in more depth in our second episode of It’s A Brain Changer —Unrealistic body expectations. Go to our website to grab the link. 

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I'm 50 and I'm retiring

retiring at 50

My 50th birthday is tomorrow and several things have been running through my head.  

First off: I’M 50! Five O! Not 33 like I feel and it just dawned on me that I haven’t even started thinking about retiring from my career like some people plan ahead for and do at this age. 

Why would I? I LOVE what I do.

We tend to think about retirement in the literal sense of ending our careers but why be so narrow-minded about it? 

We have the power to retire from anything anytime we want. How cool is that? 

Reflecting on my life I realize I’ve retired four times already: 

The first one happened in 1996 when I retired from thinking my life would be over by leaving my corporate career and moving from MI to TN to start working for myself. 

I had two back-to-back retirements in 2001: first when I retired from material ‘stuff’, a big home, and my clients so I could afford to stay home full-time with my infant son for his first year and second when I retired the limited belief that I was getting old (34!) and transforming my body after two children would be impossible. 

I loved 2008 when I retired from people pleasing, being a perfectionist, control, and comparison!

For my 50th birthday I am retiring all remaining limited beliefs that say I have to wait until I really retire to be bold to do whatever I want. 

Ya know what I mean? Do you also have outdated thinking that tells you to play it safe now in your ‘real’ career? How you need to wait to be big and bold after you retire? 

Do you call bullshit on that line of thinking like I do?

Live now! Do what you love now! Be all in now! Speak up now! You with me? 

From here on out I’m saying hell no to things that don’t fill me up or excite me and saying hell yes to bolder actions and opportunities that do!

No matter your age believe that you too can retire from anything you want at any point. Early retirement from limited beliefs, worn out habits, stress, and people pleasing (just to name a few) kicks ass!