18 dirty words and how I stopped using them (you using any?)

Take a look at this list of dirty words!

Fed up

Sick and tired

Stuck 

Depleted

Unhappy

Unfulfilled

Unmotivated

Stagnant 

Tired

Panicked

Depressed

Angry

Hopeless

Resentful

Drained

Settling

Anxious

Ho-hum

I am in the middle of an assignment for a course I’m taking and these are the words the women I’m interviewing use to describe how they feel (or for some, how they felt before we worked together.)

I relate to these dirty words well. They’re the ones I used years agobefore the shit hit the fan, I crashed, and then climbed my way out of hell into the energizing, beautiful light. 

Feeling stuck (or insert your own dirty word) is a by-product of giving a lot of time and attention to your B.S. Inner Critic.

Your Inner Critic is that voice telling you…

To put yourself last because your true worth is measured by how much you do for others 

You’re a failure because you can’t seem to motivate easily to achieve your goals like everyone else

Success equals busy, trying hard, and exercising lots of control

You better do it right (full-on or perfect) or don’t bother trying

It's OK not to try and that playing small is a good idea (yeah, damned if you do and damned if you don't)

Your Inner Critic’s job is to keep you safe but her demented spin actually keeps you from your dreams, living bigger and bolder, speaking up for yourself without guilt or shame, from being confident in your skin, and from the career and relationship of your dreams.

Losing your Inner Critic helps you gain back your life. 

If you’re using any of these dirty words to describe your life click here and download my free confidence guide. Your Inner Critic's brand of 'safety' also erodes your confidence and that’s bull shit. This guide gives you solid steps to understand how to start recognizing her for the evil-angel she is and helps you take back your power over her and your life because, damn! You only get one! 

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My catalyst moment -- When my washer flashed F.U.!

Have you ever heard my ‘F.U.!’ washing machine story? 

It was a catalyst moment in time fo-sho.

I was going through my divorce, just starting my business (AKA: not making hardly any money) and stressing about everything. Did I have what it took to grow my business? Where could the kids and I afford to live? How I was going to support them? Should I get a ‘normal’ job and scrap my business dream? 

 Add in all of the guilt and shame that surrounded my decision to get a divorce coupled with my paralyzing ‘what-if’ fears about money.

Fear and lack thinking lead to more fear and lack reality…

My ice maker quit. 

My microwave broke. 

My coffee pot started caffeinating the counter. 

And the last straw? I heard my washing machine making a funny sound so I went in to see what was wrong and when I looked at the instrument panel it was flashing ‘F. U.!’ at me. 

Yep. I’m not making that up. 

My washing machine taunting me was the last straw and I decided in that moment that I was done playing small and being afraid. It came clear to me that I had become a shell of myself. Where’d the Kelly go that was fierce? Decisive? Confident? 

It was time to tack my power back.

Despite my severe financial crunch I got all of my appliances fixed because I was ready to show the Universe that I was done cowering. 

The Universe is always going to give you what you focus on and up until my ‘F.U.’ catalyst moment I was telling it to give me lack.

But you know what? When I decided to rise up and take my power back the Universe also rose up to support me.

I quickly hired a coach and started waking the hell up to life! Over-thinking turned into bold action taking and lack turned into “I’m worth it!” My confidence and income grew as a result and by sticking with my business dream I am now living my dream! I get to coach women who are ready to take back power over their lives and it’s freaking awesome! 

Here’s an important question for you to ponder:

What are you focused on? Lack? Fears? What-ifs? Or are you focused on actions? Possibilities? Growth? 

I learned a foundational philosophy during that grim time in my life and it’s this:

What you focus on grows and where your energy flows and the Universe will always match your energy and your focus. 

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Hardcore motivation, on the day you need it most? Drop your name and email here if not and let’s start rocking Mondays together!

Bonus!
Get the tool I use every time my current situation feels heavy, stressful, or icky. It works like a champ to quickly turn it around and I am confident it will do that for you too. Get it here.