focus on you

This isn't a typical sappy Valentine post

be your own valentine

This isn't sappy even though I do say the word love ;)

I want you to focus your love on you starting this week because, after all, Valentine is spelled with an I ;) 

Massages, manicures, and facials are great and all (and I have fabulous local recommendations) but when I talk about love I’m talking about what’s going on under the surface. The real shit. 

How you’re showing up for yourself is either adding to your genuine happiness and daily ease or keeping you a bit stressed, making you feel like you need to ‘cope’, or encouraging you to keep avoiding the difficult stuff. 

Real love for yourself shines from the inside out.

Take the top three regrets of the dying for example:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

I used to live with all three of these regrets except at the time I didn't see them as regrets or even that they were wrong. I was simply playing into Society’s ‘shoulds’ and wasn't even tuned in to how living this way was negatively impacting my life and health. 

Society says we need to work hard and that we need to squash our voices and passions because fitting in, pleasing others, and living status quo trumps everything.

If these dying people would have been given a second shot at loving themselves from the inside out they would have:

Let go of limited and negative beliefs and built confidence and self-worth so that society’s ‘opinion’ no longer mattered.

Left dead-end careers and relationships and felt true lightness and freedom for living their passions with the right people. 

Stopped associating worth by their possessions, how many hours they worked, their title, or how closely they could ‘fit in’ to society norms. 

Valentine, how do you want to really live the rest of this day? The rest of your life?

Speak up for yourself? Say no? Stop giving a shit about society rules and people pleasing? Be authentically you and take powerful action steps on your dream? Let something or someone go? 

Do it. Live it. NOW. 

Play this life like you mean it and keep the I in Valentine by living full-on while you’re alive! 


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