I did my life all wrong

I never felt good enough or that I was accomplishing enough and that lead to years of stress, lack of sleep, emotional eating, anxiety, bitterness, workout addiction, overwhelm, and an overall manic life that revolved around everyone but me.

I would over-function and think I had to hold everything and everyone together and definitely never show any weakness because I was strong damn it!

I would set unrealistic goals for myself and then use a ton of negative motivation to ‘succeed.’ I held on tight to control and rarely gave myself permission to celebrate my achievements because there was always a next level waiting.

Because I was always stressed (who wouldn’t be!) I turned to food for solace. And because I always wanted to be seen as super fit and healthy I would workout for hours each week so I wouldn’t gain weight. Even though everyone told me I looked great I never believed them.

It was an absolute bullshit way to live and here’s the crazy ironic part: I truly thought I was happy. I honestly thought that was how life was supposed to go (I was literally the mom in the movie Bad Moms––read my blog post.) 

Oh, hell no!

After I crashed from self-induced stress and overwhelm I figured out how to take my power back and do life on my terms. 

I learned to really love myself and when I did that everything fell into place. I stopped listening to the critical voice in my head telling me that I wasn’t enough and started living for me!

I let go of control, slowed down, and learned to go with the flow which ironically made me more productive, creative, successful and happy. 

I figured out my values and boundaries and learned to use my voice to speak up for them without all of the self imposed guilt and worry over what people thought. 

I put myself on my VIP list and started taking care of my needs first and witnessed my relationships thrive.

I found my soul mate, got the guts to turn my life and health coaching passions into a successful career, and started defining happiness according to my truths and values.  (Important Value: Fun. Fun = Dancing. Yeah!) 

I got off the crazy train of emotional eating and workout mania because I learned how to fill up from life which meant I no longer needed to use excessive food or exercise as a way to ‘cope’ and handle it all. My weight leveled off naturally and the mirror and I became friends.

Doing my past life all wrong is what drives my coaching success. I am that real, relatable, no B.S., coach that knows exactly what it’s like to feel stuck and thinking it’s the best it can ever get.

My clients see more transformation in their lives during our typical three months together than they’ve seen in years or even decades.

And they don’t just see one area of their life improve, they see big shifts in many areas.

That’s the beauty of how I coach. We tackle everything that’s not awesome (even the stuff they think can’t be changed) and turn it around.

It’s common to help the same client rock their relationship even when they’ve given up hope, leave their dead-end job to start their own business, and lose weight the right way and keep it off. 

And here’s how I do it:

Un-learning
We were taught from an early age to fit in, fear the unknown, play it safe, over-think the possible what-ifs, please others, try hard, be perfect, and exercise control. 

It’s not rocket science to see why we’re unhappy, stressed, pissed about our looks, stuck, unfulfilled, and in stagnate relationships and careers. 

I help you get to the root of it all and teach you how to let it go because none of it works and it messes with everything.

Re-learning
Now we learn all the kick-ass opposites! Being authentic, trusting your voice and decisions, being bold and speaking up, taking care of your needs without feeling guilty, getting clear about your bigger dreams and goals, and learning how to flow vs stress to name a few. 

All of this works to make your everything pretty damn great. 

Bold actions
Nothing happens, changes, or turns around without action and ironically it’s what we fear doing the most because we’re scared of starting in the wrong place, messing it up, or failing. 

You have me in your corner as your kick-ass support system giving you a shot of confidence and courage to be bold even when you’re scared. It’s what works! 

Doing my life wrong is what I ended up doing right! 

I get to celebrate my client’s successes and see their health, happiness, and confidence shoot through the roof!

My clients make more money, find their soul mates, get the guts to leave their dead-end jobs, lose weight for good, stop having bad and stressful days, and wake up excited to live their passions. 

What do you want? Let’s talk and see how we can make it happen. 

 
Kelly is a great listener and helps you identify what you judge about yourself and feel shame about which allows for magical healing to take place. She really listens and talks to you about stuff you’re hung up on, excuses you’re making for yourself, and stuff you believe that isn’t even true about yourself. I’m a shinier and happier version of me because of Kelly!
— Melanie Silva, Vice President of Sales