Motivation Monday

3 Ways 95% Of Us Screw Up Bathing Suit Season

Kelly Summersett


It’s almost spring. Thinking about bathing suits yet? Ready for your private ‘see how my shorts fit’ fashion show in front of your mirror (complete with contorted faces)? 

Do you start out strong about now with a lot of fire to get to the gym after some well-deserved wintertime hibernation?  

I know the pattern all too well and maybe you can relate to the next layer — the comparison and perfection game, never feeling ‘enough’, using negative motivation and a lot of willpower to get to the gym, and ‘trying hard’ to eat right. 

Oh, and let’s not forget control. Oh yeah. That cute little self-imposed mind game enforcing strict parameters on food, play, exercise, relationships…everything!

Yeah that was me. Lots of control, trying to be ‘perfect’, negative motivation and willpower. 

Did I look good? Yes. Did I think I looked good? Hell no. I could only see my flaws and everything I didn’t yet have. 

Listening to that critical and negative voice never worked….let me rephrase, it worked but not well and not for long. It’s like seeing what you want for yourself but continuing to play out the absolute wrong way to get it. And that is ex-haust-ing. 

And since I’m divulging, here’s more — I never felt like I could share this internal mind f*%$ with anyone for three reasons:

#1) I always thought everyone had it more together (and looked better) than me and they’d judge me.

#2) I never wanted to show vulnerabilities or weakness and only wanted people to see that I had it all together.

#3) I didn’t understand or realize I wasn’t doing it right (weird, right?) I thought fitness and having a good body was just a struggle for me and the way I was dealing with it (control, perfecting, ‘trying hard’, negative motivation, etc) was the right way.

 Turns out? 95-99% of all women feel like this! It messes with your head and every single bathing suit season.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

It is my mission for you to do it different. Better. Easier. To have support and be able to relax and know you’re absolutely not alone. 

 My Springtime Fitness Gift to You.

Join me for free for the next two weeks in my private Facebook Group. 

I created it for you and everyone like you who wants to do their health, fitness, and life bigger and bolder this year. To stop doing what has never really worked and learn the game-changing tools that up-level how you look at your body, workouts, and health from this point forward. 

Here’s the scoop in full transparency:

If you’re tired of replaying worn-out patterns and want better tools, join this group.

You’ll get a new way to look at things, support, and the best part? A community of other women who are in the same place as you and are committed to doing their health and fitness better this year too. 

I’m running this group today through Saturday, March 16th. 

After the two weeks are up? If you want to continue your journey you’ll have the opportunity to dive into a longer and more robust program (both in person and remote) that takes you to the next level of OWNING IT! with your fitness and in your life.

This group is a free two-week gift from me. No further strings or no pressure to do anything beyond that unless you choose to.

And that, my loves, is the scoop in full transparency. 

If you want to join in (even if you just want to observe) click this OWN IT! link and I’ll add you. Have friends who might be interested? Please, by all means, share this post with them or send them direct to the Facebook group link. 

Learning with friends is the best way to stay accountable. 

Local to Chattanooga? Check-out the two free ‘try me out’ workouts I have scheduled for these next two Saturdays.


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This isn't a typical sappy Valentine post

be your own valentine

This isn't sappy even though I do say the word love ;)

I want you to focus your love on you starting this week because, after all, Valentine is spelled with an I ;) 

Massages, manicures, and facials are great and all (and I have fabulous local recommendations) but when I talk about love I’m talking about what’s going on under the surface. The real shit. 

How you’re showing up for yourself is either adding to your genuine happiness and daily ease or keeping you a bit stressed, making you feel like you need to ‘cope’, or encouraging you to keep avoiding the difficult stuff. 

Real love for yourself shines from the inside out.

Take the top three regrets of the dying for example:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

I used to live with all three of these regrets except at the time I didn't see them as regrets or even that they were wrong. I was simply playing into Society’s ‘shoulds’ and wasn't even tuned in to how living this way was negatively impacting my life and health. 

Society says we need to work hard and that we need to squash our voices and passions because fitting in, pleasing others, and living status quo trumps everything.

If these dying people would have been given a second shot at loving themselves from the inside out they would have:

Let go of limited and negative beliefs and built confidence and self-worth so that society’s ‘opinion’ no longer mattered.

Left dead-end careers and relationships and felt true lightness and freedom for living their passions with the right people. 

Stopped associating worth by their possessions, how many hours they worked, their title, or how closely they could ‘fit in’ to society norms. 

Valentine, how do you want to really live the rest of this day? The rest of your life?

Speak up for yourself? Say no? Stop giving a shit about society rules and people pleasing? Be authentically you and take powerful action steps on your dream? Let something or someone go? 

Do it. Live it. NOW. 

Play this life like you mean it and keep the I in Valentine by living full-on while you’re alive! 


Are you part of my Motivation Monday Tribe?
Hardcore motivation, on the day you need it most? Drop your name and email here if not and let’s start rocking Mondays together!

Bonus!
Get the tool I use every time my current situation feels heavy, stressful, or icky. It works like a champ to quickly turn it around and I am confident it will do that for you too. Get it here.

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